Starting a business can bring up a lot of new fears for solopreneurs
Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of the unknown. Fear of being seen. Fear of rejection.
Do any of these sound familiar?
If you’re like many new solopreneurs, you’re no stranger to these (very common) fears.
When you’re just starting out, and especially you’re focused on building a purpose-driven business, you want to do well, to put your best foot forward, and to make an impact.
But you might also worry about the possibility of failing, or what people might think, or if anyone will buy from you.
In my work with clients, as well as in my own journey of starting a business, I’ve realized there are a few key fears that continue to resurface among new solopreneurs.
These fears are common, they are manageable, and they don’t need to get in the way of you doing the work you want to do — as long you don’t let them.
4 Common Fears of Solopreneurs
While there are a lot of fears that can plague us at any given moment, they tend to boil down to these common fears.
In this post, I’ll discuss the 5 most common fears of solopreneurs, including what they look like and how you can manage them, so you can show up in your business, do what you love, and make a positive impact.
1. Fear of failure
But what if this business doesn’t work out? What if I don’t get any clients? Or make any money?
When you’re in the throes of fear of failure, to fail seem like the scariest thing possible. To our psyche, failure = death.
The thing is, what is failure anyway? Many “failures” in business are simply redirections to something better. To fail is to learn. It’s very rarely a life or death situation, especially in business.
This is what fear of failure looks and sounds like:
- Not taking a risk when you’re not 100% sure you’ll succeed
- Focusing on being perfect as a way to keep you safe
- Worrying that if you fail, you won’t be able to recover
- Fear of being judged
- Fear of rejection
- Impostor syndrome
How to manage the fear of failure
Everyone fails! The only person who doesn’t fail is a person who never tries.
Step 1. Get some perspective. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that would happen if I fail?” And then, “What would I do if that worst case scenario happened?”
You’ll likely find that even when you consider the worst case scenario, you can still deal with it.
Step 2. Be willing to reframe your idea of failure. Failing is learning. Each time you fail, you have the opportunity to course-correct based on what you learn. This is actually a process of evolution, which is a good thing.
Many of the most successful people have failed at something before they succeeded. So if you do fail, you’re in great company!
2. Fear of success
Fear of success could also be known as fear of outshining others or fear of playing big.
Maybe you know you’re onto something great, and feel like this could be the thing that catapults you to the next level.
But you worry what would happen if you ultimately do succeed. You worry that you couldn’t handle the consequences.
I couldn’t handle all the attention. I might outshine my friends and family.
What fear of success looks and sounds like:
- You know you could play bigger but you just feel so much more comfortable playing small
- You worry about being the center of attention and think you couldn’t handle it
- You know you couldn’t possibly live up to people’s expectations
- Fear of being visible/fear of being seen
- Fear of being judged
- Fear of rejection (by those closest to you)
How to manage the fear of success
The one thing that makes fear of success different is that you’re ultimately afraid of outshining others and worrying that they’ll reject you. This results in you not playing big enough.
Step 1. Check your assumptions. You might assume that those close to you won’t support you or will reject you. But how likely is this?
If you fear success, you likely fear judgment from others, because once you are known, you will have critics — whether they are friends or strangers.
Step 2. Practice trusting yourself. If you have this fear, you also might worry that you won’t be able to handle the spotlight or the attention that comes with success. Cultivate trust in yourself that you can handle whatever arises.
Step 3. Consider the upside. Holding yourself back is causing you to limit your own opportunities and potential. But what is the risk of not shining your light? How could you (and others) benefit from what you have to share?
3. Fear of the unknown/uncertainty
Most of us are uncomfortable with the unknown. The truth is, we have no guarantees in life, so the more we can embrace uncertainty, the easier it gets.
When you accept uncertainty, you know that while the end result is variable, you are the constant.
Life is uncertain. Business is uncertain. All you can do is to make the best decisions with the information you have at the time. And remember that most decisions are not final and can be changed.
What fear of uncertainty looks and sounds like:
- Second-guessing yourself and questioning decisions
- Wanting 100% proof of something before you’ll even try it
- Looking for evidence to support why you shouldn’t do something
- Fear of change
- Fear that you can’t handle the outcome (i.e., lack of self-trust)
- Fear of success or failure
How to combat fear of uncertainty
You will rarely be 100% about anything in life. And probably even less so in business!
Step 1. Embrace the entrepreneurial mindset. When you can think of certain aspects of your business as an experiment (especially in the early days!), it can be a place for you to explore, expand, and test…without attachment to the outcome.
Step 2. Take the next right step. Uncertainty will not change. But you can. You can choose to move forward by choosing the next right step at any given moment and trusting the path will unfold as it should.
4. Fear of rejection
Humans can’t stand to be rejected by others. It’s a fact of nature that community acceptance was necessary to our survival.
This biological protection makes us dependent on our community to accept us and not cast us out.
But we often overestimate the toll rejection will take on us. (You’re unlikely to be cast out of society or your home for not succeeding at a business venture.)
Nearly everyone experiences fear of rejection at some point, but you can overcome it with reasoning and logic.
What fear of rejection looks and sounds like:
- Being afraid to ask for for a favor (referral or testimonial, anyone?) out of fear of hearing “no”
- Feeling scared to do anything that deviates from the “norm” (also see: comparisonitis)
- Constantly worrying about what your family or friends might think
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Fear of being seen or judged
Here’s how to combat fear of rejection
We are (thankfully) not in ancient times when your rejection by society would literally kill you.
Step 1. Consider the level of importance of the potential person or groups rejecting you. Do you really care what people from your high school or complete strangers on the internet think? If it’s a close family member you’re worried about, maybe it’s time to have an open conversation.
Step 2. Let’s play the worst-case scenario game again. What would happen if you were rejected by someone? How would you handle it? If you dig deep, I’m guessing that you can come up with a few ideas, and one of them probably is, “I’d continue on in spite of it.”
So is rejection a big enough fear to stop you from achieving your dreams? Are you going to let it?
Are you letting these fears manage you — or are you managing your fears?
If you find yourself in the grips of fears as a new solopreneur, know that it is completely normal and human to feel these fears. You are biologically programmed to do so. But you don’t need to let the fear prevent you from moving forward.
When you practice awareness, and consciously manage your fear, you not only lessen its power but you strengthen your own.
What fears are you currently dealing with in your business? What will you do to manage them, so you can continue to show up, serve your clients, and make an impact?