When you’re doing something new, whether it’s starting a business or making another big life change, it can be easy to get distracted: by what someone else is doing, by what’s trending, or even — and especially — by your own thoughts.
Your mindset (i.e., the way you think and what you think about) directly impacts your growth.
This is why it’s so important to pay attention to your thoughts and notice how they’re supporting you in achieving your goals. Because if you’re own thoughts aren’t supporting you, how can anyone else?!
It’s time to support yourself and stop the self-limiting thoughts
Here are 5 ways you sabotage your own growth and what to do instead. If you’re suffering from any of these negative saboteurs, you can take action now and change the course of your business (and life!)
1. Shiny object syndrome or FOMO. Everyone around you is launching courses, should you scrap what you’re doing and put together a new course? Everyone now has a podcast, should you throw out everything working on and instead do a podcast? Stop. Wait. Keep your eye on your own paper and don’t worry about what others are doing. If you get easily distracted by the latest shiny object, consider cutting back on social media or unsubscribing from some email lists. Recognize that have your strengths; others have theirs. Focus on building your business using your strengths and talents, and don’t worry about what others are doing.
2. Self-doubt or Impostor Syndrome. It’s easy to doubt yourself when you don’t have clients knocking down your door. And it’s common to feel like an impostor when you are the new kid on the business block. But don’t let these fraudy thoughts deter you. When you find yourself thinking “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t belong here,” realize that these are self-defeating thoughts, and not the truth. When you feel caught in a self-doubt spiral, write down your negative thought, and ask yourself, “How true is this?” Realizing that a thought is just a thought and not necessarily the truth can remove its power over you.
3. Thinking everyone knows more than you. Just because someone spends money on a sponsored Facebook ad or has a million followers doesn’t mean they know more than you or have it all together. Own your expertise. You experience, education, skills, talents, and personality all combine to make you unique. That’s what compels someone to work with you over the competition. Instead of worrying about what you don’t know, start focusing on what you do know, and go from there.
4. A nasty case of the “shoulds.” I should have xyz by now. I should have figured this out. Does that sound familiar? The word “should” contains a lot of judgment. When you have a case of the shoulds, you’re either grappling with comparisonitis or unreasonably high expectations. When you’re shoulding all over yourself, stop, and get curious about what that means. Why is it that you should be at a certain point? What does it mean that you’re not? Who is making that judgment, and how is it supporting your growth?
5. Giving up too early. You’ve seen the statistics about how many new businesses fail. But why do they fail? Often times, people simply give up too early. If your first webinar tanked, that doesn’t mean you should go back to your corporate job. If only a few people showed up to your speaking event, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. You’re starting, you’re experimenting, and you’re learning. Remember: Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
Remember that your mindset is a huge part of determining your success. Your thoughts affect your feelings which affect your actions. How are your current thoughts supporting you in reaching your goals?
I’m curious to hear from you – What saboteurs have you experienced in times of growth? What have you done to deal with them?